Divorce is never an easy process, even when it is mutual and both partners still get along. When children and money are involved, things can really get heated. Both people intend to do what is best for the children but it can, and often does backfire. In an environment where emotions are running high, it is easy for things to get out of hand, leading to judges, courtrooms, lots of pain and acrimony, and LOTS of money!
Sadly, when deadlocked and forced to go to court, the outcome is usually a lose, lose, lose proposition. It costs a fortune and drags everyone through the mud. The hostility can be overwhelming for everyone and even though things aren’t being shared, children often can feel the tension and can suffer enormously. Often something they do or say may remind you of your ex and flare up emotion that children can read. These outcomes are often exactly what you were trying to avoid by going to court. There is another way.
At Love Therapy Center, we can help you sort through your emotions and assist as a “translator”. The process of Love Therapy can help you identify and understand what your needs and fears are and then communicate them in a way that can get you back to a place of goodwill between you. We can work with one or both of you to help you through this process.
In some cases, it can become so conflicted that the judge will order communication only through online portals such as Talking Parents or Our Family Wizard. In these cases, communication can be logged as evidence. It is easy to get caught up in the conflict and say the wrong thing. We can help you figure out what you want to say, avoid discrediting yourself, and say what you need to say in a way that can lead to reduced conflict.
Our goal is not only to help you in the short term but to give you the tools to be able to communicate effectively long term. Not only does this help your current situation but it can also help in all your relationships.
If you’d like to take it even deeper, we also offer processes to help you reduce the intense reactions and stress you may be experiencing as a result of the conflict.
Think of how wonderful it will be to feel you are actually able to co-parent because you have learned to communicate more openly and positively, in a way that spreads positivity through the entire family structure. As you move away from the conflict-based behavior of the past, wounds can begin to heal and things can move forward.