The process of Love for both individuals for couples is focused on BUILDING CONNECTION on THREE LEVELS and in FIVE DIMENSIONS.

The 3 Levels of Connection

As you work to build connection, the first level is to yourself. The second level is to your partner, friends, family and community, and the third level is to whatever you believe in –a “greater than” sense… i.e. the earth, spirit, God, Divine, energy, etc, etc.

The Five Dimensions of Connection

• Emotional

Emotional connection, in many ways is at the core of Love Therapy. And leads into and blends with the other dimensions. I have a very clear step-by- step process in building emotional connection:

• • Become aware of your emotions through mindfulness and somatic exercises.
  • Understand what the emotion is and what is underneath the emotion. Usually,  done through visualization, empty chair / Gestalt, Role Play and directed questions.
  • Track, journal and process (in therapy) your “triggers” and overwhelming emotional experiences that happen in your day-to-day life.
  • Release unprocessed experiences that are contributing to the intensity of your emotions so you can react to the present situation (instead of experiencing all of the feelings from your past experiences as well).

Learn communication tools such as helpful words and phrases, timing, and how to communicate with gentle compassion for yourself and for your partner.

• Spiritual

The more you are in touch with yourself and your emotions, the more you will start to get a sense of the true beauty and connection of everyone and everything! This usually happens as a result of getting in touch with your emotions and learning how to communicate with fearless and unconditional love. If this is something that resonates with you, you can also discover ways to connect with your partner on a spiritual, metaphysical, even tantric level.

• Physical

Leading from the Spiritual and tantric into the physical connection you have to your own body and to your partner’s body both in a sexual and non-sexual way. Often times, spiritual connection blends into physical and emotional connection. The pinnacle of connected existence is in the blending and melding of all of these dimensions. We will explore how you connect to yourself and to your partner on a physical / sexual dimension.

• Social

Again a blending and melding of all the dimensions, sometimes spirituality will become a part of your social connections, sometimes your sexuality. There is no right and no wrong way in finding the right fit for you and those in your life in all of these dimensions.

• Intellectual

We will again find a blending and a melding of how you connect. What is your intellectual style? Do you prefer politics? Physics? Finance? Do you like to “mind-meld” or talk about easy and lighthearted topics? Do you like to joke and quip, or do you like a bit of sarcasm?

There is no right and no wrong, EVER! It is all about finding and accepting exactly how you like to express yourself. Based on who you are and then, if you are in a relationship. Finding and accepting how who you are can blend and find the connections in as many areas as possible. You will find that likely you don’t connect on all of these dimensions. At least at one time or another, but finding the connection on as many dimensions as possible will greatly strengthen your bond with your partner. The trick to find your own truth first and stay with it, even when those around you hold a different truth and are activated by your truth.

When you are feeling connected on these 5 dimensions. You are being true to yourself and those things that are important to you. Not only will you notice a greater sense of acceptance. And a sense of “allowing”, but you may also start to feel a natural state of motivation and excitement in your life.

Is this process easy?

Not always. The process of Love Therapy sometimes involves accepting the “darker” or parts of you… the parts that have been hidden. It may be a bit scary and confusing to look at these aspects of yourself, but once you do the rewards will be great. The flip side, however, is to choose not to examine these unseen parts of yourself. This ends up being much worse. Because when you are not being true to yourself on these 5 dimensions it leads to a state of numbness. And apathy and often has roots in addiction and escapist behaviors.